Monday, October 8, 2007

There are the gays at your wedding?

This past week i passed out my wedding announcements to friends and some of my old bosses. I had the usual questions about where Becky and I are getting married, who is marring us and who is in my line. When i get to the last question and answer my Brothers Mark and Jukka and my brother in law Goran. They always ask is Goran married to my sister in Utah or my sister in Mass. Its kind of funny to see there jaws drop when i say that he is my Brothers Jukka's Husband. Then the shocking thing happens. Some people actually have the Gaul to ask why i am having Goran or even my brother Jukka in my line.
Now I know that the Gay marriage ( That Becky and I both support) is a national taboo. Especially in Utah where " If we don't talk about it the problem will go away". But come on are we not in the year 2007 what difference does it make if my brother is gay or not. Am i supposed to love only those that are heterosexual and not those that are different. When Christ said to love everyone did he mean except those pesky gays. It kinda funny how people want to take part of his teachings and throw away those that make them a little uncomfortable.
Where if comes to Goran when Becky and I where talking to about who we want on our line they are the ones i have. I consider Goran and my brother. I love him as much as i love my other two brothers i would never ever exclude him from the happiest day of our lives. Becky agrees that's what i tell all those people that don't understand how to love. Gay or straight doesn't matter family love knows no orientation. Well just wanted to vent i can't understand how people try to make others conform to there way to thinking. I just want to be happy with my family.


J G-W said...

Joseph, I love you! No one could ask for a better, kinder, more courageous brother than you. I read this post to Göran. It brought tears to my eyes. We feel incredibly honored to have you for a brother, and we are SO excited about your wedding! I can hardly wait for Göran to meet Becky.

You are both incredible!

Abelard Enigma said...

This is beautiful. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials.

BTW, I added a link to your blog from my blog - I hope you don't mind.

MoHoHawaii said...

You're Brother of the Year, for sure. Great post!

GeckoMan said...

I hope you don't mind, but I'm taking this with me:

"family love knows no orientation."

You have an amazing family to be proud of, that's for sure.

Joseph, best wishes for a truly happy life.

Kristin said...

I really like this post - it hits close to home. My mother is gay. People ask me what I think or how I feel about that and I just tell them, "She's my mom. All she ever wanted is for me to be happy, how could I want anything less for her?" Some have the nerve to continue the converstaion further, but most of them can understand what I mean.
Thank you for sharing this post!